My approach to counselling has at its core, my belief that the question, isn't "what is wrong with you?" But rather "what has happened to you?" Yet, I'm also keenly aware that we often seek counselling precisely because we carry a heavy sense that something is deeply wrong with us. This feeling may arise from struggles within a current or past relationship, difficulties connecting with others, or simply the way we perceive ourselves and experience the world around us. It’s natural to internalize these challenges, leading to a perception that we reflect some deficiency or failure within. 

By reframing the focus from “wrongness” to “experience,” I hope to help clients see their struggles in a new light—one that acknowledges the impact of life experiences and shifts away from self-blame. This compassionate approach aims to foster a sense of understanding, self-acceptance, and ultimately, healing.

When I’m working with clients, I’m highly attuned to the words and language they use to describe their thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Language has a unique ability to both reveal and conceal so much about how someone experiences themselves, their relationships with others, and their understanding of the wider world. This sensitivity helps me to truly hear what’s being said—and sometimes, what’s left unsaid—creating deeper insight and connection in our work together.